Roses & Thorns

Do you ever just feel completely overwhelmed with the things around you? The posts on FB or IG. The messages from coworkers. The noises down the hallway. The voices in your head telling you you’re not good enough, or it won’t work, or no one cares.

Silence. Sometimes I just need to sit in the silence of a room and listen with my heart. Feel the energy in there. Feel the warmth and the love. Feel myself.

Because to be honest, at the end of the day it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. If at the end of the day you can say you did your best, you had a genuine effort and you cared, what else is there? What does it matter what anyone else thinks?

I know, I know, we ALL care what everyone else thinks. Always. Constantly. But that is why we’re where we are at. Overwhelmed. Overstimulated. Constant noise and notifications. Constantly battling over should I or shouldn’t I.

What if we just listened to our souls, you know, our real self, what would we hear? What would we feel? Deep down, we know what we really need. We know what we’re really hoping for. We know what we want to hear.

Some people don’t understand the need to be alone. How it recharges us. How it allows us to reset and refocus so we can be our best selves. It doesn’t mean we don’t like people. It doesn’t mean we are mad, sad or depressed. Being alone is one of the best things we can do. Get in tune with how we really feel and what we really think. Being alone with our thoughts and our own energy allows us to know ourselves on a deeper level.

When we start to focus on what we thrive on, we can better serve not only ourselves, but those around us. That we can be the best version of ourselves and therefore be the best for others. It’s not selfish. It’s self care.

Maybe sitting in a room isn’t for you. Maybe your solitude is spent in the car. Maybe it’s on the water. Maybe it’s on a walk. Wherever the place, don’t be afraid to be alone. Maybe it’s just exactly what you need to do to feel more like yourself.

If you need someone to watch the kids, call them. If you need your kids to be quiet, give them a bag of marshmallows. If you need your spouse to be somewhere else, ask. They don’t know what you need if you don’t let them know. They might not understand, but I bet you they will respect you and care enough about you to give you what you need. Because sometime soon, they will need something from you too.